Suggested Books for Grieving Pregnancy Loss:
Hands down my favorite book. Ann Finkbeiner lost an adult son and interviewed 30 other loss parents about their own journey’s, what was healing, and what kept others stuck.
Finkbeiner, a medical and science writer in Baltimore, lost her son, T.C. (Thomas Carl), in 1987 in a train wreck, when he was 18. Determined to learn what researchers had to say about the long-term effects on parents of a child’s death, she found that data on the subject was sparse and focused mainly on recovery steps taken immediately after the death.
So she placed an ad in the newsletter of a local chapter of Compassionate Friends, a self-help organization for bereaved parents.
She then interviewed respondents who had lost one (or more) offspring, stipulating that the death(s) had to have occurred at least five years before the interview. She met individually with 30 parents: Did they feel guilty? Did they feel better over time? Did their relationship to God change?
The two main things she learned are that a child’s death is disorienting indefinitely and letting go of a child is impossible. The author makes no claims to scientific rigor-interviewees were self-selected by virtue of having answered the author’s ad. Those who have lost a child will find corroboration of many of their feelings in this enlightening and heartrending study.
Emtpy Arms is one of the oldest books on the market, and often one of the first given to families in the hospital.
I know the names can be confusing, but Empty Cradle is such a comprehensive book, covering the loss of multiples, support for fathers, when you need medical intervention, and parenting other children following a loss.Also covers both miscarriage and stillbirth grief.
Books about TTC After a Loss/Pregnancy After a Loss
I personally loved this book in my own journey and recommend it to clients for practical discussions about deciding if you are ready, and if you are ready to try to conceive, how to prepare for the emotional roller coaster, grieving while simultaneously preparing for and carrying new life. Also touches on the anxiety of trying to conceive taking longer than you want
The companion for deciding if you are ready, is pregnancy after a loss for the journey in between the loss of your baby and the birth of the next
To read to or with your children to help them cope with and understand the loss of their sibling
I know the title of this one sounds ominous, but truly it’s a great read. It gets great reviews. It also does not have religious themes if you are seeking something without any religious tones for children.
Great option for younger children to address the idea of loss of all kinds